Sunday, 19 June 2016

35 years later...

To the man who brought me into the world,

I should be over you by now. I would have moved on and embrace what life has presented me. Still, there is a day when I am inclined to think about you with all the unanswered questions. The puzzle will never be completed and maybe because it is better that way. Maybe because the picture will be more painful to bear.

I don't know how my mother have loved you and I will never know why you betrayed her. Maybe some people are just not meant to stay and that you only have to be in her life for a short time because of me. Life is full of mysteries and at times, apathy can be bliss.

I grew up hating and longing for you at the same time. I partly blamed myself because I might have been the reason why you left -- correction, why you never came for us. Back in those days, people's impression were not that helpful when it comes to "family". It took decades to process all social stigma and I wonder if you have been stigmatised for such abandonment that you pulled.

I will never understand the whys and the hows because probably, they don't matter anymore. However, there are still moments...moments in between seconds when I ask the Universe if ever you think of me, too. I will never know...

I have forgiven you; in spite and despite of it all, I will always remain...

Your daughter.

Monday, 7 March 2016

#OneDayIWill

One day... someday..
I will be free from the constraints of the society
Not to be compared or to be deemed as a weaker gender
Nor to be scrutinized for the emotions I bare..

One day... someday..
I will walk to the streets with my head held high
Not because I am better but because the world is
And that the efforts for equality are not in vain...

One day... someday..
I will embrace my femininity with fervor
Not because I am perfect but because I am perfectly imperfect
And that my scars have written my history
And my wrinkles say I have lived.

One day... someday ..
I will tell my sons and daughters to seize the day
To look beyond the physical capsule that sets them apart
Look beyond and see that we were all made the same...

One day... someday..
Men and Women would realise who we really are
We are all humans - armed with strengths and weaknesses
No one is better -- one cannot live without the other

One day... someday..
There will be equality...
That one day starts NOW.

Monday, 6 April 2015

Bicolindia Express

My attachment to Italian and Indian food  was  due to the literal hard wiring in my head...

In one of my conversations with my Mom, she told me that she used to apply olive oil to my scalp when I was a toddler so that my baby fine hair would eventually grow thicker. I didn't ask if somehow she was able to add basil as well.

In my elementary years, I remember  having my head swabbed with coconut milk -- usually on a Sunday, so that my still baby fine hair would grow thicker.  Honestly, I think it was just a strategy so that I will stay home rather than be playing outside. So it's really not because I am half-Indian that I love curry. Hard wiring, indeed...

I have probably cooked Bicol Express inside my head for a dozen of times and before the cauldron overflows, I have finally decided to put it into work in my favourite place in the world -- HOME.

I like the fact that cooking is old school at The House of Mamang and that, basically, you have to make everything from scratch. (Thank you, Manang Nene for the kudkuran!)

One coconut has yielded 2 cups of coconut cream and 3 cups coconut milk. The difference?
The amount of water that you place and how eager you are when squeezing out the life.. the juice from the meat.

Red Thai Chili is the variety often used in Bicol Express but I prefer green chili for its heat and tang. That's the THANG!


However, I was only able to get the Paitan variety at the grocery store so I was a bit worried since I am not familiar with the heat intensity.

The traditional proportion is to have the same heaping level between the pork meat and the chili but I decided against the idea for sanity's sake.

The ginger was a spontaneous decision but worked well in balancing the pungency of the shrimp paste.

I had a couple of pork belly strips and a pound lean pork meat.  I wanted the fat to be crunchy so I sauteed it with a small amount of water until it renders oil. Save the excess for future use.

With a little oil left in the pan, I started sauteing with ginger, then onions until they became translucent, garlic and chili.  I added two tiny blocks of shrimp paste and blend them all together until an enticing aroma enveloped the house.  I threw in the pork meat as soon as somebody knocked at the door asking, "What's that smell?"

When the meat was slightly brown, I just poured enough coconut milk to cover the meat and let it simmer until the liquid has  reduced.  Low fire, baby!

This was the only time that I checked for the saltiness and  added ground peppercorns. I think I sprinkled a bit of salt before lacing the pork with coconut cream. I let it simmer for 10 minutes or so before serving.  I added extra chili for garnish but next time, I will use leeks.


Bicolindia Express -- cooked with passion and seasoned with love.

Wednesday, 5 November 2014

But a Dream...

For some people, dreams are significant and sacred for it is believed to be the link of the past, present and future.  Dreams are even part of Sigmund Freud's psychosexual analysis since our unconscious self -- the raw, uninhibited side of us, is awake.

The most recent dream startled me this morning as the realization dawned on to me as to why was I awoken -- because I had to walk to away..

Devoid of any biases and conclusions, these are the bits and pieces that my conscious memory is trying the encapsulate. Let's just call them assumptions and suspend our disbelief.

Assumption 1:  There was supposed to be a big event and guests are coming in from different countries and provinces. I recognized the city as my hometown, Bacolod but I am visiting as a tourist and not as an old-timer.

Assumption 2:  My "significant other" is actually a native of the place and looks like 12 years younger but there is tension between us that we are both trying to avoid each other. It was a silent drama of stolen glances and anxiety.

Assumption 3: I met this bubbly girl who's about 4' 10'' and probably of my age. She looked very happy as tells a story to a circle of friends which, surprisingly, I belonged to as well. She said she was pregnant and the father was "MY S/O"!

Assumption 4:  This is a bit blurry but I remember an attempt to have a conversation with him and then there was an explosion or commotion of sorts.  I saw my S/O with an amputated leg and/or arm. Then I said to myself, "I must leave.. I didn't know that he sticks his dick somewhere else when I am not around..."

Back to reality...

I've come to realized that my dream is not about cheating... It's my own insecurity setting me up -- such a low blow!  Still, in the end, the Inner Goddess wins!

Merrily...merrily...merrily... life is but a dream...

Sunday, 20 April 2014

thank you, thirty-two...

Dear Thirty-two,

A few minutes from now, you would be leaving... While some would like to hang on, I, on the other hand, will graciously let you go. It had been a wonderful year with you -- from the fights, frustrations, and fears to the laughter, love, and liquor.

We made promises and some we've never kept but we never walked out on each other. I know I drove you mad for slipping away with Twenty-three yet you were patient.


Despite of it all, you kept FAITH. You have shown me strength and courage during my lowest points and whispered wonderful thoughts when I feel that the world is castigating me. I will be forever grateful.

Thank you for showing me that LOVE is fueled by FAITH and never of FEAR – that, it is okay to let go because faith knows there is tomorrow... Ultimately, I will be fine and things will get better.



Giving you my last embrace,

Hya

Sunday, 13 April 2014

Things that go Bump in the Night...

There are nights when things go bump and awaken you in fear. Is it a burglar, is it a ghost or is it just a dream? With a flick of the light switch, you would know whether you'd be scared or not. I wish it's that easy.... 

It is never easy when Uncertainty goes bump in the middle of the night, right between wakefulness and sleep - when you are one step closer to dream zone... 

Uncertainty comes in bearing questions that burn inside your head and decisions take two confirmations instead of one but you just can't let it go and it won't leave you in peace either...

Uncertainty takes you to Dante's hell-- to the seventh level called Limbo. Pitch black and cold, nothing to do but to sit and hug yourself as it drains your happiness and all good memories are sucked out until you feel empty... nothing...worthless...

The burning questions cast off a soft glow of fiery red. 

Do you see this "thing" as something serious?
Would it be long-term? 
What is the next step?
What are the risks and sacrifices?
Is this out of love or out of fear?

It is a trial by fire, they will burn you if your intentions are not true. Truth is a ruthless friend and can hurt you like a foe but it always rejoices in the right. 



      Courage, please come with your armor. I am ready now. Is Time on my side?

Monday, 10 February 2014

The Warrior in Dancing Shoes




The elements are the same
       Battle-bred... Forged out of steel
                            Made tough by the demons

His principles... Her discipline
                       He fought with power
                                             She, with grace

Onto the battlefield
          Swords wielded reflecting the sun
                                Armors rusted...blood crusted
                                                                                                                              

Blazing eyes of dark to light
      Of  fear
          Of faith

                                                                        The dangerous dance begins...

Do not mock my skin
       I have seen horrors as much as you do 
Do not judge my strength according to the thickness of my limbs
       My spirit is limitless 
Laugh at my sword -- puny against the gothic axe you wield 
       Feel the cold blade cut through you -- flesh and bones 
You fight with power and anger
       Relentless to the core
Yet here you stand 
      Captured by movement and art....

I am your mystery...

I am the Warrior in Dancing Shoes....