A recent conversation with a friend has boggled my mind on how Christian Grey -- the craze of the decade, is perceived almost to the point that I even wonder about the impressions I am making for going ga-ga over Mr. Grey.
"Christian Grey does not exist", my friend insisted and I had to rein in my inner goddess before she can succumb to her tirade. Of course, I agree with my friend that Fifty does not exist but the world of BDSM, child abuse, hope and redemption is as real as you and me. We all have our versions of Fifty Shades of Fucked up (forgive my French).
A hunk with great abs, a billionaire and knows how give pain & pleasure to women -- surely, this person is a figment of a typical writer's imagination. Almost all of the romantic novels I have read share the same profile. The variations are brought by the era, ways of seduction and the play of words. So even before Christian Grey, women have been dreaming... fantasizing... hoping for their very own Champion.
So am I delusional for dreaming about Christian Grey? Not really... Am just being adorably crazy. I am not expecting my Mr. Grey to be a billionaire, none exist in my country and if there is, he would be Chinese. (No offense meant) My version of Fifty Shades is simply someone who can support my femininity and lifestyle -- I don't need a car or Charlie Tango.
I like his passion -- his obsession, whether feeding the world or stalking a girl, I appreciate the fact that he is not a passive individual because in this era of women empowerment, most men just stepped back. How many wives can say that having sex with their husbands is still mind-blowing and that they never had to fake their orgasms? Maybe I am too idealistic or maybe I am just exposing the truth...
I like his passion -- his obsession, whether feeding the world or stalking a girl, I appreciate the fact that he is not a passive individual because in this era of women empowerment, most men just stepped back. How many wives can say that having sex with their husbands is still mind-blowing and that they never had to fake their orgasms? Maybe I am too idealistic or maybe I am just exposing the truth...
Does Christian Grey give us, women, false hopes? I believe it entirely depends on what we are hoping for. I am not hoping for my fairy godmother to bring him to life. I am just hoping that somehow, men would step up to the challenge and love their women as if she is the only girl in the world. Maybe then, we can stop dreaming of Mr. Grey.
